Right... I dunno if this is odd but it's a theory.
I've always been a bit bothered by how Shuna at the end of Discovery is being all "Oh, the spirits have it easy! They just know when they're meant to be!" because I took it to mean she was referring to Recognition, and as we all know Recognition isn't always easy; just ask Dewshine.
But, maybe she was simply referring to knowing, with or without Recognition.
Sunstream and Brill knew from the moment they recognized - and maybe before - that they were meant to be.
Cutter and Leetah knew sometime after their Recognition - at least for Leetah's part, think Cutter knew all the time - that they were meant to be.
But... here's the thing:
Scouter and Dewshine also knew that they were meant to be. (And Dewshine and Tyleet knew.)
Treestumpt and Clearbrook knew.
Skot, Krim and Pike knew.
And... Tyldak and Dewshine also knew. They knew that they weren't meant to be.
So... maybe 'Becoming Lifemates' for elves is as simple as knowing. As simple as the day it feels right to call each other 'Lifemate'.
Maybe Shuna's and Ikopek's wedding were like that too; they too knew.
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