I posted this up in my personal blog a few days ago and it's still on my mind. Have a read, tell me I'm stupid or whatever.
So it's been about a month since my ex (R) broke up with me for the weakest reason I've ever heard. Reading between the lines is a dangerous habit to get into, but that's what I have been doing. During his breakup speech he said a few things that made me question his sanity, telling me his ex had been in contact asking for sex was one thing. His exact words "I mean , I'll be alright, I've already had offers"
Fucking put your ego back in its box for 20 minutes while you're breaking up with someone, mate.
The next thing was as he was leaving. He said "you never know, history might repeat itself. Who was after me?" I was totally baffled when he said who he meant. Now I'll need to back up a bit to give a bit of history here.
26 years ago, in school where we met, I dated R for about 3 weeks. Nothing much happened, a quick smooch in the park and that was that. All that stopped in a very teenage way like teenage things do. Then a few months later I dated G for a few weeks, same thing. Nothing happened other than hanging out and going on a few dates to the cinema and what have you. We were all in the same advanced science classes and we all hung out after school. We were all friends, basically. We left school, G went off and disappeared, R went to the same college as I did but then I went off and got a job and didn't speak to anyone for decades.
Then Facebook was invented. I found R and G and added them as friends back in 2009. We exchanged the customary "bloody hell, how've you been? It's been ages" messages and that was that. A total of 4 messages between G and myself and slightly more with R because he's a talker. I was in a stable relationship with the guy I almost married, the guy my kid called her stepfather, that was as far as that went. Anyway, that relationship ended and i was single and not dating for 5 years until I posted a status on fb about needing help with moving house. Up pops R with an offer of assistance as long as I made him tea. Well that was the start of our rekindled friendship, we met up had coffee that kind of thing. Two months later we got together and were in a relationship for over a year.
Where G comes into this? No one had seen or heard from him for years. He never posts on fb, he just has an account. Then about 6 months ago, he randomly liked one of my statuses. Up until then I'd honestly forgotten he existed. Over the next few months he liked a few more things I posted. Then I put up a status asking if anyone knew about a website I was considering using for D&D gaming. He pops up out of the blue and answered all my questions. All conversation we had was out in the open, there was no private messaging or anything else. He's commented on a few more things since then too.
So where in all that very public interaction did R get the impression that G would be my next relationship? I have no idea. I suspect it was some kind of reverse psychology bullshit to ease his own conscience.
And now I've had time to think about it, I'm curious about what G is doing with his life because nobody knows. But how do you start that conversation? Can you just randomly message someone you haven't spoken to for decades other than a customary hello? It has been bugging me for a few weeks now. What does a person say in that situation? It's likely I never will, but it's on my mind nevertheless.
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